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[0:13] Hey you guys i'm here with my dear friend colette paul who i adore and she reached out and offered to walk me through her decision making process or formula that she is teaching in her new book so i'm going to take it i'm going to turn this episode over to her basically and you guys are going to have the opportunity to hear me be in the coaching seat on this call which i know all of you love. So I'm going to just hand basically the mic over to Colette and let her lead this discussion. And I'm excited to see what new clarity and insights come through as a result of this conversation.
[0:46] Hi, Kaylin. Hey, it's so fun. Thank you for letting me come and have a conversation with you about this. We were in the same coaching room a few weeks ago go and you were asking a question and I thought, hmm, Kaylynn might want to know about the decision formula when it comes to this question. I love it. I'm excited. Yeah. So first of all, I just want to say that I let Kaylynn help me with my messaging quite often. And it is such a gift, gift actually, such a gift that you have the ability to help all of us say it the way that we need to say it and the way that is useful to say it. And most importantly, to get clarity on what our messaging actually is. And I think that's such a gift that you have. And so the funny thing is, is that with this book, I have a new book that's out barely, probably by the time that that people hear this. It'll barely be out, but it's called The Infallible Choice, a revolutionary system for making the right decision 100% of the time. And the funny thing is, what was it, like three months ago or something? Yeah. We reached out to you and said, hey, Caitlin, can you help us with the messaging for a coaching offer that has to do with making a decision.
[2:16] And I was thinking at the time that I would want to help someone, a leader, whoever it is, make a good decision, make the right decision using my decision formula. And so you helped us create the messaging for that. Well, I don't have that offer. That offer never even materialized. But the messaging that you helped us create that day really helped me with this book. It became the book. I just didn't know it at the time that that's what it was going to become.
[2:49] But that's what it has become. And so I feel like you're in this book, too. I love that. That's what it boils down to. I feel like you're in this book, too. It's really awesome. I really love that. And you're obviously the genius in this area. So it makes sense why it would distill, whether it turned into an offer that you sold for a high-ticket amount or a low-ticket amount or a book.
[3:10] It makes sense. So I think it's beautiful.
[3:12] Yeah, thank you. Thank you. Okay. So I think the best thing to do right now is I'm going to teach everybody the four steps of my decision formula. And those four steps are just questions that we ask. And as I teach these four steps, I want to talk to you about your greenhouse group. So we call it your greenhouse group. Is that what it's called? The greenhouse, right? Yep. The greenhouse group. And so the The greenhouse group, because as I've watched you make decisions about the greenhouse, I feel like they fit into the decision formula questions. And I want to show how you already have done this through using the greenhouse. And then we're going to take a few minutes and help you make a decision that you have not made yet and make sure that it lines up with the decision formula principles. I love it. That sounds amazing. Okay, perfect. All right. So the first question that we ask in the decision formula is what is important to me? What is important to me? And now the way I want you to think about this is your whole business. Okay. So what is important to me in, in my business? How would you answer that question?
[4:27] Yeah. So there's a lot of things, obviously. The first thing that comes to my mind is kind of more of a bird's eye level from Kaylynn's perspective. Like what results does Kaylynn want to receive or create from her business? So the number one most recently for me has been creating recurring monthly revenue because I've been through seasons where I've sold a lot of client spots, had a lot of pay-in-fulls, had big income months, but then had slow income months very soon after because all my client spots were full and I wasn't selling anything. And so that was item number one is I was sort of dreaming about the greenhouse was I want an offer that first will create monthly recurring revenue. This is not going to be a short experience. This is not going to be an experience where a lot of people pay on day one and there are no payments that come in after that. So that was thing number one.
[5:20] Thing number two was that I really wanted a place in my business where I could basically show up and teach whatever I feel like teaching about. And so that really is where like the root of the greenhouse started was I don't really want to teach like a curriculum where there's these six steps in month one, we're going to talk through this in month two, we're going to go through this. I wanted it to just be a really creative experience for me as a leader where I can, you know, knowing the women who are in the program sort of use my own own creativity and inspiration and even revelation to receive direction about a principle that I could teach inside the program with a very, actually no framework, with a very loose structure so that I have creativity. So those are really the two core things that I started with when I was making decisions about the greenhouse. Okay. What about your business in general? What would you say is most important to you as a business owner with your business?
[6:19] Freedom for myself is number one. I don't like to be tied down. I love having clients. I love creating offers and things, but I'm always very mindful that the offers that I create feel expansive and freeing for me instead of feeling like I'm going to be roped into this for any amount of time. So freedom would probably be number one. I think variety is number two. Variety for myself I think leadership would be another one me being able to stretch my wings as a leader and also helping the women in my audience in my offers stretch their wings as leaders creating a place where you know Colette knows my story where I started with a product business and ultimately decided to move in this direction of coaching because I found so many women who felt alone and confused and frustrated and lacking clarity. And so I was like, if I could just get on a call with you, I could help you clear through so much of this in your mind. So that's another personal value of mine is empathy and connection and compassion, for women who are running businesses. Okay, so what I'm hearing is the things that are important to you are flexibility, creativity.
[7:39] Revelation, freedom, you want things to be expansive, you want variety, focus on leadership, empathy, connection, compassion. Yep. Would you say those are things that you value? That sounds like it hits it on the head. Okay, perfect. All right, so that is the umbrella that we are going to approach all decisions with. Okay, so our values, the things that are important to us often don't really change. Sometimes we might add something here or there. But in general, those values are going to impact every single decision that you make in your business and probably in your life. If we talk about your life, I would say that some of those things are still on the list when it comes to what's important to you. OK, so think about an umbrella, your values, the things that are important to you are an umbrella. And then every decision that you make fits under that umbrella.
[8:35] OK. OK. And so now we're going to look at one decision and that decision is the greenhouse. OK, so that decision fits under this umbrella. You have lots of other decisions that fit under the umbrella of what's important to you. Mm hmm. Just one of them that we're going to talk about, the greenhouse. Okay, so when you were thinking about the greenhouse, the next question that we're going to ask is actually the golden question. And that is, what do I want to have happen? What do I want to have happen? And this speaks to the result or the outcome. And the way that I like to define that is, what do I want to be thinking, feeling, doing or learning, and becoming? And since this is a is an offer for other people other people are involved in this then what do I want my clients to be thinking feeling doing or learning and becoming all right that's how we think about the result of the decision okay so we're not thinking about what we're going to do many people will just jump straight to what am I going to do so they have their values they have things that are important to them but then they jump straight to okay what am I going to do?
[9:50] Right? Or what should I do? I would say that many of your clients are asking, what should I do? Yep. Yeah. Tell me what to do, Kaylin. Yeah. Exactly. And so there's this middle space that gets forgotten and we're going to think about the outcome. What do we actually want to have happen? And then every plan that we make after that is going to reflect creating what we want to have happen. Okay. So if you were to say, all right, what do I want my clients to be thinking, feeling, doing, or learning and becoming with this offer? It was before you knew exactly what it was going to be, but what did you want them to be thinking, feeling, doing, or learning and becoming? Do you want me to say what it is now or where it started?
[10:35] Why don't you tell us where it is now? Okay. Okay. So now, I mentioned this just previously, but it's really important to me that women think, feel, act, and become thought leaders. And I actually think about this frequently because there are some days, you know, when I step outside of my business and it's like, what am I doing this all for? I love the income. I love the creativity aspect of it. But really, at the end of the day, it feels very much like the impact that I want to create, that I want to have reach beyond me and the legacy that I want to have last after me is helping women become leaders in their business, in their families, with their spouse, with their kids, in their church calling. And you know I think you can be put in a leadership position but there's an embodiment of being a leader that is the thing on my mind right now that feels the most relevant and important the kind of impact that I want to create okay so what they would be thinking is I am a thought leader what they might be feeling is I feel like a thought leader what they might be doing or learning is I produce things as a thought leader yes and what they're becoming is I am a leader in my business in my family, with my spouse, in my church. Yes. Does that feel true? I love it. Okay, what else might they be thinking?
[12:01] Right now, I think they're thinking that it's really hard to create content. I know they're thinking that. It's one of the problems that I love to help solve. I think- Do you want them? I want them to think I know exactly what I need to say today. Okay. So this is the result that you want, is I want them to be thinking I know exactly what to- create today? Yes, I know exactly what to say. What to say. Okay. What do you want them to be thinking at the end of this whole experience? What do you want them to be thinking? Okay. I want them to think I know how to create money. I am someone who creates money easily. Money flows to me easily. It's good for the world when I create money.
[12:49] I want them to think the things that I have to say matter and are significant. Okay, something come to mind. Perfect. Tell me what you want them to be feeling. I want them to feel deeply confident in themselves.
[13:07] I want them to feel more connected to a higher power. For me, for the people in my world, that's usually God. I want them to feel clarity, like they have a clear path. They know what to do. They know what they're working on, what they're trying to create. And I want them to feel unashamed about what they're working on creating. Okay, perfect. Is there anything specific that you wanted them to do or learn? We talk a lot about messaging and about basically creating an offer that's compelling, learning how to talk about it in a way that's compelling, and then putting it in front of your audience in a way that makes them want to say yes. So it's kind of like all of those things, but with a content strategy lens or a marketing strategy lens.
[13:59] So the compelling offer, compelling, what was it? Messaging. Messaging. and then what was the third part and a clear content strategy okay what would you say besides, that they're becoming a leader in their business family spouse and church is there anything else that you feel like you would want them to become the first word that came to my mind when you said that was unwavering like to learn how to become someone who doesn't doubt themselves become Become someone who moves through life with an assurance that she's a good person and that she's doing good things.
[14:37] Okay. So just so your listeners know, I'm writing down your responses and there is a matrix that I've created with a horizontal line and a vertical line that cross. And in one section, it says think, in one section, it says feel, in one section, it says do or learn, and the other is become. And I have listed all of these different things in each of those four quadrants. And so I think this might be something that we could maybe offer on the show notes or something when we're done. People can see what the process was. All right. So with all of that in mind, knowing that this is what you want to have happen, okay, this is the result that you want them to be thinking, feeling, doing, or learning and becoming,
[15:22] then you make some plans to create that. This is where we ask the question, what is a good way to make this happen? So step three of the decision formula is asking, what is a good way to make this result happen? And it's the plans and implementation stage of the decision formula. And so that's where you start deciding, okay, we're going to have an offer. It's going to be this long. It's going to have this curriculum or not this curriculum, that kind of thing. And then the formation of the greenhouse comes to be. All right. And so then the fourth step in the decision formula is to check it.
[16:03] Am I creating what I want to have happen? So instead of just saying we're going to do the greenhouse, it's going to be a six month offer and it's going to be, you know, for this type of person, it's going to cost this much money. Does that help us create what we want to have happen? Happen every single one of those plans can be checked against what you want to have happen so when you say okay i'm going to have it be six months okay does that help me create what i want to have happen maybe.
[16:35] Maybe not. Does it need to be tweaked? Does it need to be longer? Does it need to be shorter? What is the format of this container of this group? Is it going to help us create what we want to have happen? Is it going to help me create leaders?
[16:50] Is it going to help me create information so they can make compelling offers and have messaging and have a clear content strategy? What is a good way to help this result to happen? And so you check everything against what you want to have happen. And then whatever you choose, if it fits with what you want to have happen, then it's the right decision. I love that, like the simplicity of that so much. Tell me more. Just like the fact that you can distill the right choice for you based on making sure that the cornerstones of your foundation are built on your personal values. And if they are, then it's probably a good enough decision for you. And you can sort of lean into and own that it's the right decision. Yes, it's the right decision. And in the decision formula, when we check it, we can check it all throughout our plan. You know, the plans that we make, we can check it as we're executing it. And we can also check it at the end. And if there is something that we need to make a change with, like, wait, this actually isn't creating what I wanted to have happen, then we make the next right decision. We just change it. We make the next right decision. It doesn't mean that what we did before was not the good decision, was not the right decision. It was. But now you have some more information and you're going to make the next right decision.
[18:16] And it's this decision chain of next right decisions, next right decisions with new information, constantly checking, am I creating what I want to have happen? And I think that you do that with the greenhouse, right? You've done that where you're like, oh, wait, that isn't really what I wanted. Okay, I'm going to kind of rework that just a little bit. And that's the next right decision. And so that's step four, where you're checking against, am I creating what I want to have happen?
[18:43] Okay, so let's try this for a real life example. Okay, for you right now. And this is the reason why, why I even reached out in the first place, because you asked this question. Okay, you asked this question in a group where you said, I need some help with my morning routine. Right? Yes, I need some help with my morning routine. It's just not feeling, I just, it's just not feeling right or something, right? And then everyone started giving you ideas. They started giving you ideas of what a good morning routine is, what works for them. And that was a very generous way to go about this question. Everyone's sharing ideas, like you can try this or, oh yeah, I feel, I feel your pain, you know, and so this is what I do and that kind of thing. It was in that moment where I asked you, I said, I said, Kaylin, I think we're asking the wrong question. And I said, what do you actually want to have happen?
[19:39] And then I drew a blank and couldn't answer that question. And you're like, I'm not sure. And so I'm like, okay, but let's talk about this further because this sounds probably amazing. Yeah, this is going to be amazing. Okay, so let's do that. Let's just assume that your values are what they were for the business. Is there anything you would add to those values when it comes to your personal life? Actually, no. Interestingly, I think they're spot on. I know because of work that I've done, my three values are freedom, Freedom, a close relationship to a higher power, and variety. So I hadn't actually put together until you said that, that the greenhouse is absolutely built on the cornerstones of those values, which is just a really cool check that that offer is super aligned for me. I love that. I love that. Yeah. And so isn't that interesting? Like, all you have to do is check, like, is creating what I want to have happen? And then you know that it's a good decision. Yeah. Okay. So I just drew the same matrix on my paper right here that I drew for the greenhouse. And this is going to be for your morning routine. All right. So under your umbrella of values, you have another decision and it's called morning routine.
[20:53] And so that's why under these values, there's like tons of decisions, right? There's so many decisions that we can make. And we're just going to pay attention to morning routine for the last three steps of the decision formula. to be a lot. So what do you want to think, feel, do or become or do or learn and become when it comes to your morning routine? And if you would like to say, well, I want my children to think or feel this thing, then just just call that out as you want to be thinking and feeling your children, whoever, whoever you want involved with that. Sure. Okay. Do you want me to start with what do I want to think? Sure. I want to think I feel totally prepared for everything coming my way today. And I feel excited about everything that's going to happen today. Anything else? That's the only thing that's coming to my mind right now. Maybe more will come through in a minute. That's okay. All right. What would you, what do you want to be feeling? I want to feel peace. And the word that's coming to my mind is like invigoration, energy.
[21:58] I, this might be related, but I have historically struggled with an afternoon energy lull, which might be related to biology, might be related to psychology. It's hard to say. Maybe both, right? So yeah, I want to feel strong and full of energy all day long. Okay. All right. What about doing or learning? Is there anything specific that you would like to do or learn during this morning routine? I actually kind of think I would like to learn something might be one of them. I want to have new inspiration, new ideas, feel like I am not creatively blocked.
[22:41] Something that I struggle with that feels vulnerable to share, but I know Colette's the one to help me with this, is that I struggle to, I think I have this image or like idea in my mind of what spiritual connection with God and Jesus Christ should look like. And the cookie cutter format doesn't give me the invigoration that I'm looking for. And so that's one of the, one of the things in my morning routine that I have, I have discovered I feel like is missing, but also maybe not. This is where I need help making this decision. So spiritual connection your way? Yeah.
[23:21] Okay. Yep. Anything else? I like to feel, this is going back to feel, I like to feel like my brain is clear. Like I've dumped everything out. I've gotten all the yucky stuff out instead of feeling bogged down by negative energy. Okay. What about become? What would you like to become because of your morning routine? That's a really, really cool question. This is the same word that came to me earlier, but unwavering is the word that comes to my mind. I just want to become someone who is sure and certain. I don't want to become someone who let doubt or fear make decisions for me. I like to, well, I want to become someone who is faith-filled, who's a leader.
[24:07] Those are some of the words coming to my mind. Hey, that sounds amazing. All right. So what I have is you want to be thinking, I feel totally prepared for everything coming.
[24:17] You want it coming my way today. I want to feel excited, or I feel excited about everything going that that's going to happen today. And then you're going to feel like your brain is clear.
[24:27] You're going to feel peace, you're going to feel invigoration and energy, you're going to feel strong, you're going to feel full of energy all day long. You want to learn something each day, have a space for new inspiration and ideas. You want to be creatively open and you want spiritual connection your way. And you're going to become unwavering, sure and certain and faith-filled and leader.
[24:54] Okay, so all that can happen with your morning routine. Did you know that? I really think so. I think I'm close, but not quite there. Hey, perfect. So the third question, the third step of the decision formula is you say, what is a good way to make that happen? And this is where when we were in our group call and everyone was giving you ideas of what they do for their morning routine, do you see how it was step number three? All right. Step number three. And all of the ideas could work. None of the ideas.
[25:35] Infinite number of ideas work if it helps you create what you want to have happen.
[25:44] Okay. I see that. Yep. Okay. So what are some things, maybe you've, you've kind of identified a few things that you like doing or whatever. Let's sort them out and see if they match up with what you want to have happen. Okay. So a couple of things that I have recently built into my morning that I really like that feel, I'm just now realizing that the feeling of dread Dread is like the antithesis of, I can't do dread. So I have found an exercise routine that feels dread free. I actually really enjoy it. And when I wake up for it, I feel excited about it. So I go to the gym three to four times a week for a class and that feels great. So I feel very sure on that piece. Okay. So that's really important because exercise routine, it can have like a zillion. Totally. options, right? And all of them can work. And so it's really important for you to recognize why do you like going to the gym? Why do you like the three to four times a week? Why do you like a class? How does that fit with what you want to have happen? I've actually been thinking about this and I maybe in the past would have felt a little bit vulnerable to say I really like my exercise routine. But the reason why I really like it is because I've experimented with so many of those different combinations. So I know for sure I can't work out at home. That feels dreadful.
[27:12] I know I can't work out every single day because that doesn't check the variety box. What else? I like to go to the gym because it feels like I don't have to think about planning or preparing anything in advance. I just show up in my workout clothes. And the teacher is telling you what to do. They tell me what to do and I do it and it's great and I love it. Okay. Do you see why that is a good decision? It's not just, oh yeah, I do it three or four times a week and I'm not sure. Is that enough? I don't know. Are you doing it more? I'm not sure. Should I do it at home? Maybe I should want to do it at home because I'm with my kids and I don't know about having an instructor. Maybe I should have like enough self-determination. Do you see what I mean? Like all of that starts to happen when we don't know what we want to have happen. Yeah. But it becomes very clear and you can have confidence in your decision to go to the gym three to four times a week for a class because of all the things that you want to have happen. It ticks the box. Yeah. Right. Yeah. And at some point, if you want some variety, you want to make a change, then what? Then I'll try a different option and see if I like it and see if I don't dread it.
[28:27] Yeah. And you'll see if it helps you create what you want to have happen, which is no dread, variety, freedom, all of that. Right. Okay. And so now you have a way, this is, this is us checking the decision of the exercise program. We're just checking. Is it, is it creating what we want to have happen? It is. Okay. Let's do it. All right. And at any point, yeah, at any point, you can keep checking it and make a different decision. The next right decision. Okay. I love Love that. All right. So you have the dread-free exercise routine. What else? Something that I have been doing is there, well, I was going to say, I call them morning pages. I learned these from Julia Cameron's book, The Artist's Way. What I've been doing, she recommends handwriting. I just get out of Google Doc and write until I don't feel like writing anymore. And it does help me feel like I can put all of the thoughts in my brain somewhere so they don't have to keep rolling around and driving me crazy. So that is a piece of my morning routine that kind of floats around. I wouldn't say I'm doing it every single day, but it is, I have found like one of the bricks of my morning routine that I really, really like. Okay. How often would you say you do it? Often?
[29:42] Probably like, well, actually, usually I'll do it after I get home from the gym. So three to four times a week. Okay. So you have dread-free exercise routine three to four times a week. You have morning pages often. I love that.
[30:00] Whenever I feel like it. Right? Just often. I really like that, actually. Yeah. And you don't do it handwriting. You do Google Doc because that fits more with what you want to have happen. Exactly. Okay.
[30:16] So it doesn't matter that you don't handwrite it. Morning pages are morning pages. Yep. You could call it something different. Doesn't happen every day. So do you see how this is part of your routine? We're checking in. It's what we want to have happen. in and it's working. It's helping you to create the result you want. So there's no need to wonder, should I be handwriting this? Should I be doing it every single day? I think it's that. Actually, what I would have said is I should probably be doing it every single day. I may have actually said that. You didn't say that and I invite you not to say that. I'm not going to say that because I can't do anything every single day. I can't either. You said, I mean, variety is a big deal. That's what this is.
[31:01] Yeah. You know, things that are daily are not fitting in the variety. And so you just have to be kind of watchful of that, like that idea that I should be doing something every day. Yeah. I actually like, almost like the antithesis of the two is I was like, I actually very much shouldn't be doing it every day because that would lose its magic and it would feel like dread. There you go. Perfect. I love that. So we've checked that one. Yep. You see how we're checking all along the way against what you want to have happen. Is there anything else that is part of your morning routine? No. So this is the next one that I want to check to see if it fits because, you know, I have been taught since I was a little kid, every day you should read your scriptures, every day you should say your morning prayers, every day you should write in your journal. And I don't do those things every day, if I'm being completely honest. Again, possibly, probably because of the variety need. But I do want to feel like I have connected with God and we're on the same page today.
[32:06] And I think I am constantly questioning if what I have done is enough. Is it the right thing that I'm doing? So like, if I'm being honest, I'll probably actually open the scriptures three to four times a week, which is not every day, which feels vulnerable.
[32:23] But something that I have felt is very often when I'm writing my morning pages, it almost feels like a prayer. And so I think I'm like, I haven't even decided yet if my spiritual connection feels like it's missing from my morning or not? What if you just decide that it's not? I like that, but there's still a question in my mind of, am I doing enough or am I doing the right things? Okay. So what if part of your morning routine is connect with God? Okay. I'm liking that. And you can do that in a variety of ways because we like variety. Okay. And it could be in your morning pages. It could be opening the scriptures. It could be a formal prayer. It could be a conversation with your children where you testify of something? I hadn't really thought of that. I do have conversations like that with my kids pretty frequently, usually before bedtime. I think I just have a lot of ideas in my head of how it's supposed to look. Yeah. But if what you want to have happen is spiritual connection my way, and you want to feel unwavering and sure and certain and faith-filled and as a leader, what are you going to decide is your way?
[33:37] I really like that question. It feels hard to answer. Yeah, and that's okay. Like, this is the part that by checking it, we show what we need coaching on. We show what the next conversation is going to be with our coach. Yep. We know that, like, we're going to ponder this. We're going to ask God. Like, this is a question I for sure would ask God. I actually haven't even thought of that. Yeah, like, listen. Listen, I want spiritual connection with you. I want to do it my way. Can you help me figure out what that looks like? Figure out what that is. I actually really like that. And then ideas are going to come to you just so you know. That is one thing that I do feel confident about that I know how to get answers to questions like that. Is this kind of like how we just talked about where in my brain there's these certain boxes I have to check, but I can just release the need to check those if I have clarity about how I do want to connect with God every day. How would you answer that? Yes.
[34:45] I think I'm asking you for permission right now. Yeah. I mean, I can give it to you, but I can give you permission because I think that's how God works. God wants us to connect at whatever way that is going to be connective for us. Right okay so we're just going to set that like in your heart now and in your mind and you're going to you're going to work on that and we'll just leave it as connect with god i like that there's a space all right okay yeah so connect with god and i would invite you to be open to all of the options of what that can look like what that can feel like for you yeah it's so interesting how that feels like i mean you can hear me resisting that but it feels so much like what I want. So that's giving me work to do. I mean, it's interesting because the end result is not read the scriptures.
[35:46] That's not the shift, right? It's a path. It's a way to do it. Like the end result is connection with God. Scriptures are a way to do that. Prayer is a way to do that. And so I think sometimes we, especially in our church, you know, we have a program called Come Follow Me. And lots of times we say, I need to do Come Follow Me. But really, what we're trying to do is have a connection with God through learning from the scriptures, right? Yeah. And so come follow me is just, it's just a way to be in the scriptures. It's not the result. It's a tool for us, which is awesome. It's one of the options. It's a tool that really can help us. Okay. That gives me some good homework to work on. Okay. So you have dread free exercise routine, morning pages and connect with God. Is there anything else specifically that you've already figured out is part of your morning routine?
[36:48] No. No, those feel like the top three for me right now. I'm trying to think if there's anything else that I want to include that I haven't yet. Is there something with your family interactions?
[37:00] Yeah, like I'm thinking through our morning routine right now. Basically, my oldest is in second grade, so he goes to elementary school. So there's a couple of jobs that we have to do before he goes to school, like get dressed, get ready, brush teeth, brush hair, get lunches ready, get him to school. School, there's micro things like I know exactly what time I like to leave the house so that I don't feel rushed or behind on our way to school so that I can just be calm and chill on our way to school. So I don't feel like there's anything missing from those moments right now. Okay, perfect. So let's just call that something. It's like the preschool experience. Yes. I love it. But what's happening, right? Like, you know, that you have an experience that happens with everybody before school. Yep. And that's part of this morning routine. All those little parts. You leave at a certain time, you do certain chores, you know, all of that. So it's your pre-school experience. I love that. Okay. So that's part of your morning routine. Anything else?
[38:05] This is interesting. I hadn't really connected this as being part of my morning routine, but it does happen in the morning. So I right now work Monday and Wednesday from 9 30 to 4 30 and that's when my nanny comes I just had a thought this morning I didn't have my first call till 10 30 this morning and that hour felt amazing there was no rush one of my kids had a hard time transitioning to the nanny this morning which doesn't always happen but it felt so good to know like there's nowhere I have to be right now if I need to sit here and snuggle for 30 minutes I have that time so I actually had the thought this morning I think I want to move back all of my calls so that you can't schedule a call with me before 10 30 okay so is this nanny time or non-nanny this would be nanny time with the nanny so it's non-work nanny time, Yes. Right. Like the nanny there and available, but you're not or non call. Yeah.
[39:05] I really like that actually. Okay. You can call it whatever you want. Sure. I did. It's like non work nanny time on call nanny time where you are just available and abundant in this space. I really like that. Okay. Anything else? This is the last thing that just came to me. It's kind of a silly thing, But I think the ladies listening to this will appreciate this. There's a 15-minute chunk of time that I need to get myself ready that sometimes gets pushed too late that I think I would like for it to have its own block of time.
[39:42] Okay. What would you call that? Getting ready. Okay. Hair, makeup, basically is all it is. Okay. So your 15-minute get ready time. Okay. So you have dread-free exercise routine. That's three or four times a week. Morning pages happen often. You connect with God probably on the daily. On the daily. You can say that you already are doing this in some form and you start expanding your view of what that actually looks like. Or even like just identifying in my mind that was connecting with God. I can close that loop. The intention. Like you're setting the intention. I connect with God daily, and then you're identifying when that is. I love that. Right? Okay, so you're going to connect with God daily. You do your preschool experience whenever there's school. There is non-call or non-work nanny time each week. We'll just say each week because sometimes it happens, and you get to decide how often, all of that. I like that. Okay. And then 15 minute get ready time. Yep. Is probably daily. Daily.
[40:55] Should probably spend the full 15 minutes more days. That's why we're building it into my routine. Right. Exactly. 15 minutes get ready time. It happens daily. Yep. Perfect. Okay. That looks like an amazing morning routine. It feels amazing. It's funny, like the little pieces that I may not have included as part of it. It's just like, you know what? I need to include all of it so that I feel like it's exactly how I want it. Yeah. And then now you're going to use step four of the decision formula and just check it. Evaluation happens all throughout the process where you're like, hmm, something isn't quite working. Okay. How can I, how can I make it what I want to have happen? Let's just tweak this part. Let's just think about connecting with God differently.
[41:41] Right? Yeah. What if I don't think that I have to do morning pages every day? So we're just checking it. And if there's ever a thing that feels kind of like friction of some sort, then you know it's probably misaligned. I think that's really good awareness for me because, I mean, I do credit myself for being pretty good at catching that friction, but you can, like, this has brought things to my awareness that I hadn't caught yet. Like, oh, that has been bugging me, but I haven't figured out what I actually want to have happen instead. Yeah. Yeah. And so, so that's the question. What do I really want to have happen here? Like I ask myself that question constantly. What do I really want to have happen here? And I'm rechecking, rechecking like, oh, I thought it was this, but really it's this. Oh, okay. Then what's a good way to make that happen? I'm going to tweak it this way. I'm going to do this other thing, whatever. And so just, just constantly ask Ask yourself, like, what do I want to have happen? Am I creating that? If not, we're not going to get mad. We're not going to say, oh, well, I should be. I should want to do it this way. I should be able to make it happen. No, it's just like, let's figure out a way that I can make it happen.
[42:56] It's more in line with what I want. I love that. So literally every decision can become the right decision. Mm-hmm. If it aligns with what you want to have happen. Right. So then you're just going to make the next right decision with more information, the next right decision, the next right decision. I really love that. I love this too. This is an amazing morning routine. And then when summertime comes and you're in a different cycle of time and no school and all of that, then you might have a different morning routine. And that's okay. That's okay because you're just going to say, what do I want to have happen with mornings during summer? Mm-hmm. What do I want to have happen with my mornings during Christmas break? Do you see? Like, it's okay. It's okay to check yourself in all of those different situations and create
[43:45] the plan for those different situations. I promise you they will still go with what you want to have happen. They just might look a little bit different. The how might look a little bit different. Right. I love that. And it gives so much clarity now to what I really want to call this out, especially for the women listening, because we do often, often go straight to the how, but this helps me see how that's not the right question. There's other questions we have to answer first because there's an infinite number of ways to how. So like, they're all really good. They're all great. All of the ways are good.
[44:21] And so that's why it was funny when I was listening to our conversation with our group and everyone was giving their ideas because we were in the how. We were in the how. And it's like, yeah, all those ideas are good. Right. And I'm thinking too of especially, actually, I want to call this out too, because I think that I used to think that in business, there's some things that are good and like there's only certain things that are good. But I I really see it this way now that there are an infinite number of ways to make what you want to have happen happen in business, too. And so and we we get so much messaging and information about it should be this way and it shouldn't be this way. But it's like there really are an infinite number of ways to make business happen. So how do you want it to happen for you?
[45:06] And once you get sort of like the mental exercise of getting clarity to questions like that, then you don't have to feel bogged down by everyone else's voices and opinions. Yeah. Are you talking about like, oh, you need to post this many times a week? Yes, exactly. And it should be this way and it should say this thing in this certain way or look this way.
[45:25] Or you should create these certain offers or create them this way. Like I'm thinking of the way that I was trained as a baby business owner was like, you have to fill your private coaching spots first and then you can have a group and then you can have a membership, but it has to go in this specific order. And that's great, but also doesn't have to be in that order at all. And so I found a lot of freedom letting myself pick which options I want in the season that I'm in right now.
[45:51] Right. And so when you pair that with identifying first what you want to have happen, what result you're trying to create, and then checking it against that, no longer are these decisions ambiguous and just arbitrary. Like, okay, I'm just going to try this. I'm going to throw it at the dartboard and hope that it sticks. It feels kind of good, but I'm not really sure if it's going to work. And we still might not know if it works necessarily the way that we want it to, But if it is in line with what we want to have happen, then at least we know that we're they're headed in the right direction. Right direction. Yeah, I really like that. So I'm excited for you to start asking this question. What do I want to have happen here? Because you are a very thoughtful person. And and so I know that you're going to be like, oh, OK, I am creating what I want to have happen. Or I could tweak it this way, you know, even in the greenhouse or whatever. I was like, oh, no wonder I am doing it like this now, because I knew that this is what I wanted to have. I just didn't have the words for that. You didn't call it that. Right. Right. And so then you can have more confidence in the decisions that you do make.
[47:01] So good. I really like that. Well, thank you. This has been fun. Thank you. I really appreciate that. I'm sitting here when my wheels are turning about these things that you brought to my awareness today. and I'm excited to play and experiment with new ways to create what I want to have happen. So thank you so much. Absolutely. You're the best, Colette. Thanks for coming on. Thank you. Hey, I hope you loved this week's episode. If you did, I know you would love to be a member of my community, The Greenhouse. It's where I teach you how to build an amazing, fruitful life while you build an amazing, fruitful business. It is a movement for women who want to unsubscribe from the traditional success path that says that life has to be a struggle and instead learn how good making more money can get, how fun marketing can be, and how much joy and presence you're capable of feeling as a woman and as a mother. Find out more and join at katelynpriest.com slash greenhouse, and I'll see you there.
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